I have a really hard time knowing how to ask for help. I grew up believing that if you wanted to make something happen, you did it yourself. And while I’m not faulting my parents or my education for my work ethic, far too often I find that when I fall short of a goal or make a mistake it’s because I didn’t bring enough people in to support my efforts.
Just shy of a week ago, I was brought to my knees and forced to ask for help. At first, it felt dreadful. Like I had a big scab, somebody pulled it off, and everyone around me was watching me bleed. Now, I feel relieved. I’ve been asking for help like crazy. As a result, I’m getting projects big and small launched faster, more fully, and feeling a whole lot less anxious throughout the process.
In the video below, I share my humbling moment – at the car wash. While I hope you will laugh along with me, I’m much more interested in hearing what is possible for you if/when you rally the troops to your side and remember that success is NEVER a solo sport. Will you drop a comment below and let me know?
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Hello, I remember when I had to come to you for help in my job search. I always have felt prideful because of my accomplishments in life. And when I threw myself off that path from my own mistakes, the realities of life kicked in. I have 2 houses, 2 cars, a Bachelors Degree in Business Admin, going to HVAC Technical School, and had a government job w/ a TS Clearance. Now, I have no job, scraping by, and bills becoming overwhelming. Even through all this, I said hey, Im valuable, so I go out on job interviews. No one hired me yet, since that day. I am pissed and say that no one will ever hire me. Now, I dont even want to ask, or bother asking anyone for help because it seems like all Im doing is putting myself out there to be hurt. Volunteering precious information about myself to try and network, and all people want to see is my flaws now, not all my accomplishments and character that outweigh my past. Well, I have faith in My Lord, but even the Lord wants you to get out and use the resources available to you. So, in all this, a question again that I pose, where do I go to find help in getting back on my feet?
John, these “I’m being brought to my knees moments,” as I like to call them, can make or break us. Keep bringing love and forgiveness to each situation, each opportunity, and most importantly to yourself. The proof of WHO you are is in how you show up and live each day of your life. Yes, the answer – in this case the job – may not come on the timeline you want. But it will!