After a period of excessive productivity, public interaction and attention, I typically have a tremendous desire to get quiet and go within. I’m currently cocooning after such a period. At the beginning of the month I had the privilege of co-organizing and co-hosting Las Vegas’ first TEDxWomen event, pictured on the left. This week I saw my first cohort of Step Into Your Moxie Mastery women birth and perform their signature talks to a full house of their friends, family, colleagues, and business and community leaders. Plus, I’ve had my usual slate of speaking engagements, trainings and coaching calls.
Normally, I take the last few days of the calendar year to reflect on what has been and clear the space for what can be. But given that this time is falling earlier this year and that I’m seeking to stay true to my commitment to live as wordless as possible for a few days, this week I’m sharing some of the truths I’ve examined and feel comfortable reaffirming – as well as one former truth that I’m calling out as a lie.
1. “Practice doesn’t make perfect. Practice makes permanent.” Who you want to be as a communicator gets created through daily practice.
2. “Through the stories of others we resolve our amnesia and enter into greater connectedness with others.” Rev. Art Cribbs
3. “Going to a fearless place in your imagination will show you clearly which decisions still have fire and energy, and which lose steam without anxiety as their fuel.” – Martha Beck
4. Kindness kills everything that’s wrong in our heads and in our hearts.
5. “A woman with a voice is by definition a strong woman, but the journey to find that voice can be remarkably difficult.” – Melinda French Gates
6. If you want other people to believe in your vision, focus on communicating with the emotion that persuades them that it can and must be.
7. “Remember the difference between a boss and a leader; a boss says “Go!” and a leader says “Let’s go!” – E.M. Kelly
8. Honest communication takes the poison out of even the most unthinkable of situations.
9. You don’t pray for a particular outcome. You pray for the wisdom to honor the lessons to be learned from experiencing the outcome.
10. Everything becomes clearer after a good night’s sleep.
And here’s the fat lie.
For years I’ve lived by the mantra, “your health is everything.” Which is dangerous, because it sets you up to unravel if and when you don’t have your health. Or when you consider the possibility that you might not.
For the last 6 weeks I have grappled with the possibility that I might have cancer. And while I’m pleased to share that I don’t, at least not at this stage of my life, I’m very much not pleased with who I became in far too many moments when I considered the possibility of what would happen if I did.
Your communication with yourself creates your reality. As Buddha is attributed with saying, “With our thoughts we make the world.” We must question everything we live and hold up as a truth. Even the filter questions we set-up to protect ourselves.
My health isn’t everything. But my self-talk is.
What are your truths? Which ones do you know…for sure? And which ones do you think you know but realize don’t serve you when communicated as absolutes?